I FIND THIS SO DAMN HOT!!! MY GOODNESS!!
I love a man who spanks my ass. I love such
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
WEBISODE 2 OF THE JO-ANN STRAUSS PRESENTER SEARCH HAS TO BE MY FAVOURITE. WE HAD SOO MUCH FUN THAT DAY!
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
Glambition Episode 5- Hair
This is an episode of Glambition where I had my few seconds of fame,covered the SA Fashion Week and also an insert where Nthato Mashishi played with my hair and gave me the Minnie Dlamini look. Fun day it was...
Here is the link below
http://youtu.be/CGbVQ54BGKU
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
Here is the link below
http://youtu.be/CGbVQ54BGKU
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
WHEN I FOUND THIS VIDEO ON YOUTUBE.....MEMORIES
I have no words.....
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
I WANT TO HELP YOU MAKE YOUR DAY SPECIAL
SO! I woke up one morning and I decided that I wanted to do
something for a special lady out there.
I want to do something for someone who is in Matric and would LOVE to go to her Matric Dance but
cannot afford to because of financial constraints. I really do not have a specific
reason as to why I am doing this, I just want to make someone smile and make
her year. That is all I really want to do.
So the lucky lady I am going to choose is going to get the
following...
She will be designed a very gorgeous dress by a friend of
mine named Siwa....she is a fashion designer and is extremely good at what she
does.
I always do my nails and eyelashes at a nail studio called “Perfect 10”,I do my hair at a salon
named ‘Le Looks ”and I also get my
facials and waxing done at the “Renaissance
Day Spa”....so the lucky winner will get all those wonderful treatments
too. Awesome neh?
So if you know of anyone who deserves this or if you are
reading this and think you deserve it, please do email me and let me know why
do you want to go to your matric dance and why does it mean the world to you.
and tell me all your dreams and ambitions girl! And who knows, I could be
helping YOU say goodbye to your high school years in style.
This is applicable to people who are going to have Matric
Dances in October,November or December.
Email me on: buhlemoletsane032@gmail.com
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
LEARNING THE LESSONS
About 2 months ago, I experienced something so tragic. I had
broken up with a person I used to date for over a year. I am not going to say
why because I am not here to make him look like the “bad guy”, those are not my
intentions. And since that break up, I have got so many questions, and I have
realised from my experience that ultimately...How people decide to treat you is
a reflection of who they are, because we
all have a choice to make. And after realising that, I stopped looking at the “abuse”
whether it is emotional or physical because often we take that and ask
ourselves what is it that I might have done to deserve such and such, what is
it that I have done to be treated in the manner that I was treated.
And it hurts when someone that you loved and gave the best
of yourself to hurt you. And for them it looks like they do not recognise or
cannot grasp the magnitude of the damage that they have caused by their actions
that they took in your life. Yes sometimes it is hard to move on and pick
yourself up and pretend like this person never existed in your life. So I am
not going to force myself to pretend, I can’t pretend I am not hurting, I
cannot pretend like I am not disappointed because it only perpetuates the cycle
of hurt. I do not want to find myself 2
years down the line...I am crying, weeping and wailing over something I did not
deal with all because I was too ashamed. Not going to pretend he never existed,
but at the pace that I am going at, I am trying to move on outside of what he
does and what he says, and what he doesn’t say. Ultimately, only God can
vindicate us. He knows what he did, so I am not going to feel the need to
defend myself and want to prove myself. Those that know the truth know the
truth and those that don’t don’t. And I am not going to feel like whatever I
did was self inflicted.
I think it is going to take me a while to get to a point
where I will be finally okay with the
fact that this particular person decided to “move on”, because, It has been a
while now and I do not understand how can that person “move on” and never
looked back and never thought for a minute
I deserved an apology. Not a text message, not a phone call...for him to
look me in the eye and say “Buhle I am sorry, I should not have done A,B and C”.
Even if we did not get back together, but for him to look at me and do
something honourable like saying “I’m sorry”.
It is also going to take me a while to answer the questions
that I have because, I do not have the platform to ask these questions, I do
not have the platform to engage about what had happened and what had transpired
in that relationship and what led to the break up, and it is extremely hard to
go through. It is hard to have questions and no one to ask, because the person
you need to be asking looks like they couldn’t be bothered.
I can safely say now that I am starting to go through the
process of asking and healing, because I have stopped trying. I stopped trying
to look like I was okay.
Sometimes as a person you try so hard to not look like you’re
hurting, to look like you’re okay to look like you’re not disappointed.. And
the sad part about all of this is that you can only control what you can control. Regardless of how well I treat myself,
regardless of how I am good to myself, Regardless of how hard i tried to make
the right decisions? People will still have to choose how they treat me. Even when
you are good to yourself, people won’t be good to you. People won’t treat you
the way you need to be treated.. And one of the things that people know how to
do very well is forget, amnesia comes very easy for a lot of people. People can
forget and they can move on like it aint no thing. Like you didn’t invest in them,
like you didn’t make sacrifices for them, like you didn’t give to them when it
hurt to give. And it is hard to watch that particular person forget, because
that person was once close to you and everything that happens is just close
range.
But I am allowing myself to let go of all of this, whether
the truth is told or not. I am now
focusing on learning from the bad, learning from the good, learning from the
experience and I am going to mourn it and feel it, I will cry if I need to, to
get to a point where I know that my healing was not forced, and not out of
pretence.
It is about me, other people do not matter, their opinions
do not matter, they will make feel okay for a certain period of time and then
fade away. Not trying to put up a show for anyone, making people believes that
I am where I am not.
To conclude...The thing about life is that, whether you are
ready to confront certain things or not, they WILL confront you. They will stare
you in the face and you will have to sort it out. We all have our journeys in
life and we all have to walk out our journeys and sometimes we are other people’s
greatest lesson.
At the end of the day, I know what transpired the whole
thing and I know where the cracks come from.
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
MY 2012 YEAR
The year is almost over....wow, what a year it has been for
me, emotional one might I add, but i still got back up and remembered that God
has blessed me abundantly this year. Also realised that with all that had happened,
I found it to be a necessary experience, a test of my perseverance and faith
and I refuse to accept that all the minor glitches were of no use at all.
It really seems like yesterday I had won the Jo-ann Strauss
presenter search and not only that, just other blessing that God has showered
me with in 2012. And I am getting ready to predict what the year ahead will
hold. I am soo waiting with bated breath.
Let’s take a look at my journey shall we?...
When I sent in my audition video to the Jo-ann Strauss website,
a few weeks later this is what she tweeted
While I was waiting for the top 4 to be announced, I casted
for a photographic gig, it wasn’t really a big deal but I am one person who
never despises her small beginnings. So I casted and I got it, It appeared on
the April Issue of True Love Magazine...
Then came the time where I had to leave for Zambia, so I had
to leave Big Brother Africa for a bit. Exciting times indeed....
I was THE happiest woman ALIVE!!!!!!.....then my lovely
friends decided to put together a little something for me since I won...
It was pretty much an exciting year. And these are one of
the few messages from people who have so much love for me it is overwhelming
actually and I did not even realise that some people notice the things that I
get up to. It is so humbling.
Hope your year was fruitful and learned lessons as well.
Have a wonderful festive season. And may you make this
holiday period one of safe travelling, family, fun and affirmation in all the
things that make life special.
Love and Lipgloss
xxx
HER VOICE IS GREATER THAN YOUR ENTIRE LIFE I TELL YOU.
You'll be in awe...
Love and Lipgloss
xxxx
Song coutersy of You Tube
Give away : Shop & mingle with P&H Boutique & Grazia magazine
Hi Ladies,
It's a give away special on today's post
P&H boutique an online shopping store are hosting a shop & mingle at La Passant restaurant in Sandton on Wednesday 5 December from 18:00 to 22:00. The day is set to be a fashionable evening out. Guests will be greeted on a red carpet with couture cocktails and platters.
There will be various exhibitors at the shop & mingle:
P&H boutique - South Africa's premium online shopping destination www.phboutique.com
- Ruutos Hair - Hair extensions specialists
- MissShape - A forward-looking range for curvy women who are looking for flattering clothes. This range formed part of the Renault rising talent competition
- Epitome image and lifestyle management - They will be giving expert advise on colour co-ordination and grooming tips
- Ms Match - Luxury imported jewellery
- John Oxford collection - Egyptian cotton men's shirts... and lots more.
So, if this is your kind of vibe and would like to come, I'm giving away FIVE double tickets to the event, which will include a gift hamper with a copy of Grazia magazine, DestinyMan magazine and BlaqueUp cosmetics products.
All you need to do is:
2.You will need to tweet me directly @Buhle_molestane say :
"I want to win tickets to the Shop & Mingle"
"I want to win tickets to the Shop & Mingle"
3. The hastag for the campaign is #Shop&Mingle
Good luck to all of you :)
Love and Lipgloss
Xxx
BEST THING THAT I DID FOR MYSELF WAS TAKING OFF MY MASK,AND START BEING UNAPOLOGETIC FOR WHO I REALLY AM
I came to the realisation that I am not perfect and me not being perfect made me enjoy every minute of it because with every mistake I make,I grow from it and become wiser.
I am 23 years of age,and I have spent half of my life wanting to be "cooler",wanting to be surrounded by the coolest people...and when that eventually happened,I realised that it was not me and began to tell myself the truth...that I was desperate for approval,I bought into everyone elses opinion but mine and I hardly listened to my own. I was just an in authentic version of myself.
I am not saying I am a black sheep or I am a venomous person towards other people,but I am going to out myself right now by confessing that my life,personality,relationship are far from perfect. As much as I have a whole lot to be grateful for...I am still trying to find my feet in all of it.
But I know,at the end of the day...my imperfections and my faults will all connect me to my true being...slowly but surely.
So,here is my list of my imperfect self
I get stressed and anxious
I get angry
I get Jealous(this only happens when it comes to my boyfriend)
I cry
I've made mistakes
I fight with my boyfriend
I get insecure
I get frustrated
I think little of myself
I don't put myself first.
There it is. Made a decision to share this with you because I myself,am not perfect and pretending to be something that I am not will not serve me at the end of the day. Trying to fit in and being perfect is exhausting so I would just rather be myself and play my role the best way I can,and by doing that...I will eventually not see my lists as fault but rather look at the list as me being human.
Like many other people...I battle to get it all together and when life throws me with a curve ball...I get up and dust myself up and start again....or continue where I left off.
So do yourself a favour and recommit to making your health and well being your number one priority
And be unapologetic about who you really are.
Do you want to out yourself with your imperfections? If so,do share them with me on this post. Acknowledge yourself for being you
Love and lipgloss
Xxx
BUHLIOLOGY
BUHLIOLOGY....A SUBJECT THAT I HAVE BEEN MAJORING IN
For the past few weeks, I have decided to hibernate in Bubuville, it was very much needed and as i was doing that I did a whole lot of de-cluttering when it comes to the people i keep in my life. And can i tell you that its been wonderful doing that thus far.
For the past few weeks, I have decided to hibernate in Bubuville, it was very much needed and as i was doing that I did a whole lot of de-cluttering when it comes to the people i keep in my life. And can i tell you that its been wonderful doing that thus far.
I took time out to experience the presence of God and withdraw from the presence of other people, and in doing so...God has been revealing through vision what He wants me to do because I gave Him my life and the work that He does in me He will see it, finish it until Jesus comes.(Sorry for going all Christian on you guys lol, just had to). I can’t tell you how much I’ve grown as an individual, getting rid of toxic associations and just getting to know myself as a whole. And I must say, I have learned a lot about myself and still learning. So while I am at it, I shall continue to let my gifts slice everything in the atmosphere, and to always shine beyond any negativity, and know that there is NO competition to win a trophy because there are enough blessings for all of us.
And lastly, to go be what I was born to be, stand firm and DO ME!! And I WILL be happy because happiness is the BEST elixir for me.
Love and Lipgloss
xxxx
Resentment
I remember this one time,my friend and I were heading to lunch,as I was driving I decided to play my favourite Beyonce album of all times,Bday. Then we played a track called “resentment”,the silence in the car while the song was playing....we only had *sigh* moments because we couldn’t describe the severity of that song,the lyrics,the passion behind it when Beyonce was singing it.
I guess we felt that way because we both related to
the song,and I am guessing any other girl can relate too to the song. (Yes, I
am only speaking for ladies only here)
Listening to the song made me realise that, as much
as we shove it under the carpet like it is nothing,we learned and grew from
it but nothing takes away the scar of someone cheating on you...especially when
you are giving your entire self and life to them..even when there probably isn’t
anything much,your mind starts wondering and racing. It is sad and it hurts.
Even hurts more to make someone who is so
beautiful,so beautifully minded,hearted and spirited,to even wonder what it is
they are not giving or when someone they are giving their soul to seems to not
be satisfied by so much. Never mind brains hey,a whole heart full of
love,charisma and spirit...all of that for a quick come on some filthy girl.
Not cool at all
I guess we learn from our experiences. I may not be perfect myself but one thing I know about myself is that I will NEVER make someone pay the price for being a loving significant other.
Anyway,do listen to the song so that you’ll get an idea of what I am talking about
Love and lipgloss
xxxx
I guess we learn from our experiences. I may not be perfect myself but one thing I know about myself is that I will NEVER make someone pay the price for being a loving significant other.
Anyway,do listen to the song so that you’ll get an idea of what I am talking about
Love and lipgloss
xxxx
I LOVE MY JOB ON BIG BROTHER
Working for Big Brother has and still is a great experience I would not trade for anything. Being watched by the whole of Africa is something so phenominal.
Basically I am like the new age lottery girl,I am that girl who does random nominations every Sunday for the show....so like I kind of have the power to choose who leaves the house...lucky me LOL!
Its been a great experience,it might look small to you but i definately do not despise my small beginnings. I see all of this s a working progress.
Here is a clip that will show you a bit of what I do every Sunday night.
Love and lipgloss
xxxxx
Zambia trip
The Zambia trip was not only work but it completely changed my life and I am saying thank you to Jo-ann Strauss.
I went to Zambia for the Jo-Ann Strauss presenter search
competition because I had made it to the top 4 and boy did I not have the time
of my life, it was beyond magical. I learned a lot about the television
industry and myself as a whole.
I went to Zambia for the Jo-Ann Strauss presenter search
competition because I had made it to the top 4 and boy did I not have the time
of my life, it was beyond magical. I learned a lot about the television
industry and myself as a whole.
Life changing is very big and that’s what happened to me.I realised that I am building block that fits into a much
larger picture that will make this country work and I appreciate where I come
from more. And I have also realised that life is too short for trivial things.
I appreciate the space that I am in mentally now because I
now realize that self image goes way deeper than what lies on the surface and
what people perceive of it and I am only as good as I am and my limitations are
often self inflicted. There are many opportunities out there and they are
waiting to be seized and only if you are positive and driven will you conquer and
I honestly see wonders in me.
Jo-Ann and Bonang shared a whole lot of things and the most
important thing about what they shared was MY take on it. And this was my
take...
Friends are friends, some will be in your line of work..some
will be completely out. It is certain attributes in a person that we look for
and will attract us to them. It is always harder to have close friends that
want the same thing as you, jealousy will always suffice because they will
always be in a competition and there’s bound to be winners and losers and
people do not always posses the necessary maturity to rise above certain
failures in life. In fact, some people go through their lives competing so hard
for the same things as their friends that they completely lose themselves. So
with that being said,I am reviewing the relationships I have in my life,some I
will need to cut and some I will need to grow and it is surely not a difficult
thing to do.
I now know that I am capable of more and not afraid of
challenging myself to greatness
Thank you to Jo-Ann for this AMAZING opportunity. I appreciate
her so much and may God elevate her every being. I now know that I am not short of role models and mentors
Love and lipgloss
xxxxx
SELF TALK
I think all of us are familiar with the whole ‘self talk thing', Where we find ourselves rethinking situations in our heads and Just thinking about how we should have said this and that instead of such and such, and the more you think about that situation...the more it aggravates your anger even more.
Self talk is dangerous, because we believe only what is wrong in our lives. We believe what Satan and other people say about us, Which leads to buttered emotions and you start telling yourself that you are a failure and that you are lonely and you are miserable.
We feel that we don’t measure up because we think someone out there has a better life than ourselves, Here is what I am telling you now....
YOU NEED TO LEARN THE SECRET TO BE CONTENT.
God has made you who you are and you should celebrate who you are because at the end of the day, it is not what people say TO YOU, it is what YOU say to YOU.
God has said in His word: “You are the apple of my eyes”, so why be desperate for love?
It is up to you to engage in self talk to say and actually comprehend that God loves you.
Look within yourself and face yourself. Define what’s meaningful to you because there is nothing more rewarding than leading a purpose driven life. Define what love, relationships and happiness means to YOU personally.
I have found my key ingredient to happiness J,and may YOURS grow and enrich you.
May you all engage in positive self talk.
Love and Lipgloss
xxxx
DEANDRE BRACKENSICK!!!!! THIS MAN ROCKS MY EVERY BEING! SUCH TALENT
I was watching American Idols today,the contentsants were to peform songs by Whitney and Stevie Wonder. So this beautiful young man perfomed a track by Stevie Wonder. I was BLOWN AWAY!!! I HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY!!!, what a voice,I even got chills while watching peformance.
Here is a clip of his peformance. Be blown away ;)
Love and Lipgloss
xxxx
MY OTHER ARM
He's my main attraction, my rock star and my number one...after God that is. He is such a cutie! Crazy about him. When he touches me, I'm already a puddle of water on the floor! Beyond melted!!love him so much now, because of the calibre of Man that he is.
I'm glad I'm where I am, its turning out to be what I've always wanted day by day...haven't felt like I'm with a Man in ages, been feeling like I've been with people who haven't come into their manhood yet, still toying with boyhood...
And its all about timing, and I never got impatient and went somewhere else...this though has been THEE patience test of ma life!! But I truly have so much respect for him that in some instances I don't want treat him like "Baby" only, Like just a boyfriend! the way I have such respect for him...I don't ever want to find myself forgetting my place or who I'm dealing with and relaxing on it..EVER
I think truly this is the fulfilment of the scripture where God says.."Encourage each other unto greatness"
Okay I'll stop right here before I share too much.
Love and lipgloss
Xxx
HAMBA KAHLE 2011
Finally this year is about to come to an end! It was indeed a tough,tiring,emotional and happy year.
I have also accomplished a few things that I never imagined that I will accomplish. I now know that the sky is NOT the limit and I have taught myself to ALWAYS ALWAYS get my own because life is about you yourself and your own hustle.
This year has truly been a year of great blessings galore and now I pause to look at all the blessings that my God has blessed me with, like being one of the cover ladies in the most prominent magazine ever Destiny Magazine ,boy I NEVER thought i would ever make it to that magazine It was truly a dream come true and I will forever cherish that day and it will forever be a constant reminder as to why I should work hard every day!. And also recently, I have been chosen to be one of the brand ambassadors to a salon name Chique Beauty...totally unexpected, there is going to be a whole lot exciting stuff that are going to happen, going to have a mini online show where we get to interview female entrepreneurs and inspire aspiring entrepreneurs out there. So if you want to know more about Chique Beauty, log onto their website www.chiquebeauty.co.za
2011 you have been a phenomenal year and it can only be God.s grace. I have learnt a lot about life and as I was doing that i watched myself grow as an individual. Learnt to not look at the girl on the left nor on my right and solely focus on me because I am who I am and I will never wake up the next day and be someone else. Learnt that mirror reflects your face but association reflects who you are. Learnt that God resists the proud and graces the humble. Learnt to talk a little and hear much. Learnt that I don’t have to stop working hard thinking that no one is watching....somewhere someone is always watching. Also learnt to not camp at my own losses. And lastly I learnt to embrace struggle....continued to stay happy despite my situations. As Maya Angelou would put it: “Be present in all things and thankful for all things”.
I pray for a much more stronger year next year with lots and lots of blessings
Heartfelt thanks to everybody who has been visiting my blog. I really appreciate it.
Love and Lipgloss
POWER COVER OF DESTINY MAGAZINE
Mid September I was given a call saying that I was going to be one of the girls that are going to be on the cover of Destiny Magazine with mentor Carol Bouwer.
I cannot express the joy that I had that day, I was totally left in awe. I just did not believe that I was chosen to be on the cover with Carol, someone whom I have been longing to meet! It was just too amazing
And I always kept asking myself “who am I that time?”and yet this says so much as to where I want to be in the near future.
Carol Bouwer is one of the most graceful and beautiful women I have ever met, she is totally a powerhouse! And I would love to emulate her and be the Carol Bouwer in my most respective way. It was too much of a pleasure meeting her. And after having a talk with her, a whole lot of things triggered me. I realised that God blessed me with the potential to make anything possible as long as I believe I deserve it, and I always have to make sure that God is pleased every time I lay down to sleep.
This whole experience just increased my positivity sky rocket and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
I can only go higher from here.
Love and Lipgloss
xxxx
Picture coutersy of destinyconnect.com
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